Why Is Life So Unfair?

Wow, is that a heavy question. For many centuries, people of all faiths and disciplines have tried to answer that question. Theologians and pastors and people of faith have wrestled with that question with marginal results. This is our fourth question in our series about what questions you need to answer to leave a meaningful legacy for your children.

Partners in Ministry says it this way: “Life is full of trouble and there are days of heartache. That’s a fact. Life is painful. For some people it seems as if each day is like being in a torture chamber—it is agonizing.”

My wife, Pamela, is not reading this, so I can be quite honest about her. (If you know her or have occasion to meet her, please let’s keep this blog between ourselves. She does not want the attention.) She has suffered agonizing facial pain for 28 years due to a dentist error hitting a nerve. There are days when she cannot get out of bed due to the pain. She takes prescription drugs to ease the pain, but she does not wake up without pain.

She has reason to be bitter and angry at God for not healing her, for not easing the pain. She could be a hermit, hiding away so as not to explain the reason for some of her behavior while in pain. She is sometimes discouraged, but never angry. She is sometimes unable to leave the house because the pain may be paralyzing. But she is the most giving, generous person I have ever met. She rises above her pain and does not talk about herself but listens intently to others and spends inordinate time with others comforting them. She seeks out even strangers who she perceives are in some form of pain.

God has given her a mission. He has given her the grace to see others pain and minister to them. She does not know if they are Christians and frankly does not care. In fact, she merely wants to model Jesus love, even though her intent is merely to comfort them. She models what it means to merely be present in others’ lives.

If we dwell on the injustices of life, it will eventually lead us to bitterness. One of the reason many of us struggle with the question of “Why is life so unfair?” is because we do not understand that this earth is not the land of the living! This is the land of the dying. All around us there is disease, death, and sadness. The Bible teaches us that we live on a planet that is suffering from the after-effects of sin. When you understand this, it changes your perspective about life and things tend to make sense.

But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions-it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus” (Ephesians 2:4-7).


Suffering whether physical or emotional is not fun. It is no comfort to know all of what I have just said. We are merely human, and Jesus knows that we will have these troubles and alone He knows we will not be able to deal with it. It is the reason that 20 Vets commit suicide every day.


It is only through the grace of God that we have a chance to get above that pain.


My wife prays every day for God’s grace to get through the day. Understand she is not perfect and I believe Jesus brought me to her life to help comfort her and to create a foundation for her ministry and mission. She is so much a model to me of otherness and selflessness…above the pain. I have been blessed with God’s grace in the time I have been with her.

We all have hope in Jesus, for His promise of eternity without pain or sin is our comfort. “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things have passed away.” (Revelations 21:4).


source: Partners in Ministry for the 7 Wonders 

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