To Parents Of Unbelieving Children

This past weekend, my wife and I went to a “Weekend to Remember”. It was inspiring for both of us in so many ways and gave us a valuable vocabulary to talk about marriage and the many challenges that are faced in this sacred union. Since my children are older, I was beyond some of the lessons to parents, yet I hungered for wisdom in dealing with my adult children who have rejected their faith. I wanted a morsel of wisdom to help ease my mind and bring me peace. None was forthcoming.

This morning a lesson by Charles Spurgeon spoke directly to my heart and eased my mind and spirit about my precious two children. Perhaps it will help you as well. Rather than paraphrasing his words I am going to give you the entirety of his message in his book published by Truth for Life, “Morning by Morning”.


“Despairingly the poor disappointed father turned away from the disciples to their Master. His son was in the worst possible condition, and all means had failed, but the miserable child was soon delivered from the evil one when the parent in faith obeyed the Lord Jesus’ word, “Bring him to me.” Children are a precious gift from God, but much anxiety comes along with them. They may be a great joy or a great bitterness to their parents; they may be filled with the Spirit of God or possessed with the spirit of evil. In all cases, the Word of God gives us one prescription for the care of all their ills: “Bring them to me.” We need to engage in agonizing prayer on their behalf while they are still babies! Sin is there; so let our praters begin to attack it. Our cries for our offspring should precede those cries that herald their arrival into a world of sin. In the days of their youth we will see sad evidences of that dumb and deaf spirit that will neither pray properly, nor hear the voice of God in the soul, but Jesus still commands, “Bring him to me.” When they are grown up, they may wallow in sin and foam with enmity against God; then when our hearts are breaking we should remember the Great Physician’s words, “Bring him to me.” We must never cease to pray until they cease to breathe. No case is hopeless while Jesus lives.

The Lord sometimes allows His people to be driven into a corner that they may learn how necessary He is to them. Ungodly children, when they show us our own powerlessness against the depravity of their hearts, drive us to the strong for strength, and this is a great blessing to us. Whatever our morning’s need may be, may it like a strong current carry us to the ocean of divine love. Jesus can soon remove our sorrow; He delights to comfort us. Let us hurry to Him while He waits to meet us.”


Useful guidelines:

  1. Share your life with them – all of it.  Continue to nurture your relationship in ways that include your faith in a similar way you would with a non-believing friend.  Don’t exclude things the Lord is doing in your life when you get the opportunity to catch up, but don’t let it be the only thing you talk about either. They may not share your beliefs, but they do care deeply about you, and if you are being sincere, they will be more likely to absorb the parts that intersect with your faith.
  2. Be vulnerable. Our relationship with the Lord is not always easy and smooth, and if we’re honest, we struggle often. We don’t have all the answers when it comes to our walk with the Lord and pretending we do will only push them away… not draw them in. Share that struggle, don’t hide it from them.
  3. God leaves no stone unturned to reach his beloved. Rest in the knowledge that your Heavenly Father wants to be in relationship with them even more than you do.  You can trust Him. Rest knowing He will never stop pursuing them.
  4. Keep Praying. When you rise, and when you lay down, never stop praying for the salvation of your children. Our Lord can work miracles in a blink of an eye.
  5. You Are not Alone. This topic is one of the most common angsts I hear from our clients – especially when we approach their family meeting, yet I have never seen one that hasn’t left me speachless from what transpires in them for the good of the family.


Again, Jesus has given me the right words to encourage and give me hope. Perhaps you needed this message too. If that is so, praise our Savior for speaking to our hearts and never leaving our side.




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joe-sturnioloBy Joe Sturniolo
Christian Family Legacy and Wealth Planning
Joe believes that stronger families are the vehicle God uses to bring about significant impact for His Kingdom.

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