Do Your Millennial Kids See Love and Compassion Or A Behavioral Code When It Comes To Your Faith?

If you have read this blog before, you probably noticed that I am very concerned for the Legacy that we leave our children, specifically the Legacy of our faith. For many, your children fall into a group that are referred to as “Millennials”.  I don’t want to go into what that means, but suffice it to say that this group is pretty independent and has, for the most part, bucked the rules and values of their parents.

What is the Legacy of faith and how do we share that Legacy with a our millennial children that believe they know far more than us and (no joke when I say I’ve heard this one) that we have been duped by an alien group of dreamers?


Let me tell you an often quoted story of a water-bearer in India…
He carried two large pots hung on opposite ends of a pole across his neck. One of the pots was cracked, while the other was perfect. He delivered water to his master’s home through a very long dirt road. The cracked pot would leak water while traveling and every day for two full years, the water-bearer delivered one pot of water that was full and one that was half full.
The cracked pot was very depressed that he did not deliver a full pot of water and spoke to his bearer, “ I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you.”
“Why?” asked the bearer, “What are you ashamed of?”
“I have been able, for these two years, to deliver only half my load, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house.”The bearer told the cracked pot to notice the road leading to the master’s home. It was filled with beautiful flowers along the path that have grown because of the leak in your side.
He told him that he knew about the flaw in the pot, and everyday he has been able to pick these flowers and decorate the master’s table. Without the cracked pot, the master would not have the beauty to grace his house.


Many of you have heard this story with the moral being we are all cracked pots allowing Jesus to use our flaws to grace His Father’s table. My problem with this is that we need to accept our clumsy, cockeyed selves as a bit dimwitted!

Brennan Manning says, “Incessant and exclusive moralizing reduces the Good News to a tedious behavioral code, a rigid ethic, or an altruistic philosophy of life.”

Brennan tells a story of renting an office in New Orleans to be alone and focused while writing a book…
For three months he found himself crippled with writer’s block. One day, frustrated, he walked around the apartment complex. Eighty-year-old Johnny, unable to drive and barely able to walk, called out, “Hey, kid, can you do me a favor?”

“What?” Brennan asked.
“Would you go to the store for me?”

Thus began the twice-a-week ritual of tripping to the Sav-a-Center to fetch the staples of his diet: wieners, white bread, Coca-Cola, and lemon or chocolate pie.

Brennan came to the conclusion through prayer that the purpose of this office was to serve the purpose of his life: to spend time in prayer, loving God with all of his heart, and mind, and strength, and to go to the store for Johnny.


You see, the entire goal of spiritual life is compassion!


If you were in deep prayer and meditation and there was a sick man who needed a cup of soup, it would be better that you left your deep prayer and brought the cup of soup for love’s sake.

The Legacy that I want to leave my children is for them to know the truth of Christianity, to get a taste of God’s love rather than the hypocrisy they see in the church.  “Our disappointments arise from presuming to know the outcome of a particular endeavor,” says Brennan. Sometimes our most unrehearsed and immature thoughts bear fruit. People’s lives change because we are in the moment and focusing on them. “Entrusting ourselves to Mystery, we move forward fearlessly, knowing that the future of the planet probably does not depend on what we do next.”

The cracked pot was sad because he compared himself to the perfect pot. An overweight woman is happy till she compares herself to Naomi Campbell. An accomplished prolific writer is at peace until he compares himself to William Faulkner. You may be content until you compare yourself to Moses.


On Judgement Day, our precious Savior will not ask you why you were not Moses,

He will ask you why you were not just you!





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joe-sturnioloBy Joe Sturniolo
Christian Family Legacy and Wealth Planning
Joe believes that stronger families are the vehicle God uses to bring about significant impact for His Kingdom.

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