Brains Bodies and Bucks

As I was about to write this blog, a new message came up on my e-mails, “Brain Revolution, New smart pill restoring your memory”. Our culture is preoccupied with brains, bodies and bucks. Our children are a product of that mindset. You will have to search long and hard to find anything in the school system that hints at humility. Far be it for our teachers to encourage our children to see humility as a positive attribute or virtue.

Even William J. Bennett in his book, The Book of Virtues, writes about so many virtues but does not have Humility as one of them. I instilled in my children the characteristics of work, courage and perseverance but I am guilty of underemphasizing humility. What comes from this training is pride that gets in the way of a need for God. Is that the legacy that you want to leave to your children? How do we correct the mistakes of the past? How can we humble ourselves to our mistakes and bring an example of humility to our children?

If we are the center of our world, God has no place in our lives. There are a multiple of examples in the Bible of the downfall of a man because of his pride. It is a sad day when an athlete achieves the height of success and then says, “I am very proud of what I have accomplished through hard work and devoted time.” How sad when that world falters or the athlete gets older.

Frank Sinatra’s song, “My Way” demonstrates the mantra of so many in the US. If you do it your way, you are to be praised and honored. Sinatra at age seventy-eight collapsed on stage singing that song and had to be carted off stage in a wheel chair. Isaiah’s words: “All people are like grass, and all their faithfulness is like the flowers of the field. The grass withers and flowers fall, because the breath of the Lord blows on them” (Isa. 40:6-7).

I don’t believe there is anything you can do that can change the hearts of your children if they are grown. Only God Himself can affect such a change in the hearts of the proud. Only the Spirit of the Lord has the power to move a heart to humility. We are relegated to the humility of prayer if we want our children to change.

Alister Begg in his book, Made For His Pleasure, explains, “Humility means recognizing and believing that ‘unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain’ (Ps. 127:1). It means acknowledging that apart from Jesus, we can do nothing as we ought. It means longing to be filled with God’s Word and God’s Spirit.”

I can honestly say that having good wife is one of the most powerful ways of becoming humble. Because of my love for her, I respect what she has to say no matter how painful some of the words may be. I may have to process for a time, but I listen because she loves me and wants the best for me. Having a good wife or husband can keep us humble.

In summary, there is no easy way to achieve humility nor pass it on to our children. Keeping our eyes upward and reading the scriptures every day and praying every day are prerequisites to our own humility and to seeing our children change. There is no other way! Spurgeon who years ago wrote and spoke the wisdom of the Bible, tell us to become a Christian who, if cut, would bleed the Bible. This can only come with from the time you spend reading God’s word. Only then can the Spirit work in our lives and in the lives of our children.


Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.

(1 Peter 5:6)



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