This guy, Jake, happened to be in Europe speaking at a conference. The conference invited the arts to be a part of it. Musicians, artists, singers, sculptors and speakers were invited. It was a tourist location so at breaks they offered tours, so Jake went on a tour. As they were looking at a building he commented to some in the group, “Wasn’t that pianist at the last session amazing?” And then one of the ladies, who was from Europe, looked at him and said, “Yeh, he was truly amazing. I used to play the piano.”The tour guide started talking and they moved on. Something about “I used to play the piano” struck Jake as curious. And so at lunch, he made a point to sit next to this lady. As they were eating lunch he said, “Hey, you said you used to play the piano. What happened? Why don’t you play now?” She said, “I was from a little village and I was pretty good. In fact, I was better than any of the teachers. Some people raised money to send me to the states to be trained by a famous pianist because I was somewhat of a prodigy. I was there for a year but I came back home and never played again.” “Why? Tell me more,” said Jake. She said, “Well, the thing that piano teacher did to a 16-year-old girl shouldn’t have been done. And when I came back to my village, I couldn’t face the piano again.” When she shared that, she looked at Jake and said, “Thanks for asking, no one has ever asked why I quit playing the piano.” The woman Jake was talking to was 72 years old. So from the age of 16 to 72 no one ever took an interest in her or her story. No one apparently wanted to know her.
A culture of The Blessing is a culture where we are free!
What I mean when I say “culture of the blessing” is when family members make it a point to bless each other regularly and often. It is a place where it is ok to talk about things of the past and be transparent. It is a culture of trust, openness, and intimacy.
If we push things of the past down and say that it doesn’t matter or it doesn’t affect us….we suffer and miss an opportunity for healing!
It doesn’t have to be something big like the story above. It is about holding onto something that controls who we are or could be. We don’t want something to stand in the way of blessing others. And we all want our children to be all they can be.
Many years ago, my father sent me a nasty letter when I was young and trying to make a life for myself. In a very real sense, he cursed me (which is the opposite of a blessing). Three years later, God helped me reverse the curse and I was able to formally bless my father and forgive him. Yes, he should have been the one to bless me, but I couldn’t let that get in the way of what I needed to do to move forward.
Satan will try to convince us that we deserve the curse and that we will never be able to get beyond the curse, but that is a Lie!
For some, a curse can create bitterness and hinder all future communications and relationships. Blessing someone can break that curse and create an environment of blessing.
I can remember over 40 years ago, that I had a real interest in art and painting. Neither my mother nor father took an interest in my efforts. I still pursued that interest with an MFA from Northwestern University. I worked for 4 years professionally, then quit. Even after I received my degree and worked successfully for 4 years in Chicago, my parents still never took an interest in what I was doing. I gave it up and entered the financial world. I have never regretted that decision, but I always wondered what would have happened had I continued to pursue that career.
Two years ago, while vacationing in Arizona during a rather cold and wet week, I decided to pick up some watercolors and try to paint something. I have continued to paint. The painting above is one of my works. I give all my paintings away because I have no interest in selling my work. I just want to honor God with my talent. Again, I don’t have any regrets, but it merely demonstrates what can happen when the blessing is not given.
It might be time for you to create a Blessing Culture in your family.
We can help. Download our summary below. For a more in-depth explanation of the blessing and how it can impact your family, read The Blessing by John Trent and Gary Smalley, and see the continued work of John Trent through Focus on the Family in encouraging a culture of the blessing in your family.
How To Create A Blessing
A blessing is as old as the Bible. We can even look to the first book of the Bible to see examples of how father’s blessed their children.
Formally blessing your children impacts all who attend and strengthens your family relationships and legacy.
In this eBook you will learn:
- How to plan a blessing
- The importance of a blessing
- How to make your blessing special and memorable
- How to use your blessing to reinforce your family legacy
- A full blessing example
By Joe Sturniolo
Christian Family Legacy and Wealth Planning
Joe believes that stronger families are the vehicle God uses to bring about significant impact for His Kingdom.